What’s New?

So readers, you may (or may not) have asked yourself what happened to Roxanne? It’s been since September since she’s taken the time to write anything at all?

WELL let me tell you. I’ve been super busy but I’ve also wanted to share it with you. Promise.

I’ve wanted to take Verbena and transform it into more of a lifestyle blog. I know it already is, but more of a ‘personal adventure’ blog. I mean. I was in Europe for 12 days in August. 3 countries in 12 days! I helped plan a Halloween party for the Red Cross. I went through heart break and mending that heart, a couple times. Read some books, learned some lessons. Busted my arm in the middle of the street after an Octoberfest celebration. (Welcome adventures in cast land.) Saw the live Rocky Horror Picture Show. Won tickets to the Green Bay film festival. Had a birthday on Daylight Savings day that ended with a bottle of pink champagne in the local dance club. Had a radical late night Thanksgiving adventure that includes the Rotary Lights and a 20′ tall reindeer. Joined a dating site. Went on a bunch of first dates… Canceled my dating accounts. Had a great New Year’s Eve with some great friends.

And here we are… 2017. Oh the stories!

Where to start? So my question to you, readers, is would you be interested in more of an adventure / photo / life and times and thoughts / musings of Roxanne blog? I’ll take your input into consideration and just do what I want anyways but I like advice and constructive criticism.

Looking forward to hearing from you!

Roxanne

Hiking Solo

Recently I talked with a coworker about her love of hiking. I have never really been hiking before, and thought it sounded kind of boring. Me? Alone? Trees? Why? Sounds unproductive. My brain works at a different speed than that. I need to stay busy to feel like I’m accomplishing something. But my brain also told me that I needed this. I needed to unwind, disconnect from technology, people, and reconnect with what I wanted in life and what was important to me. So I asked her for a good route here in Wisconsin and she delivered! I decided on Kettle Moraine State Park, the Zillmer Trail. I did about 5 minutes of research on what to bring, it was only a 5 mile hike after all…

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Make sure to bring:

Water, small and filling snacks, (as not to get a stomach cramp) a book to read, something to take notes down on when you have an epiphany, more AND less clothing in case it’s hotter / colder than you thought, toilet paper, bug spray, sun screen, some kind of hat, good hiking shoes, some way to communicate with the outside world in case of bears / rocks / werewolves or other dangers, and an open mind.

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I went hiking on the anniversary of the passing my Step-Mother who was in my family for 19 years before she succumbed to cancer. I had decided this hiking trip would be my date with her, where I can walk around the woods and talk to her, shut off from everyone, and just be me. I had a few goals going into the woods as well, so I could have an objective when I came out the other end of the trail.

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Hiking goals:

  1. Figure out what I want from the next 5 years.
  2. Figure out what I LOVE in this life and don’t budge on letting those things fade. Keep the things / people / places you love, dear to you. And keep them. It’s what makes you, you.
  3. Figure out what I want from the next man in my life and what I’m willing to settle for and not settle for. This is really important. DO NOT SETTLE.
  4. Love yourself first. Drill it into my head.
  5. Talk to the woods. Step mom. Grandmother. Chipmunks. A random snake.
  6. Listen to music and dance a little in the woods. This happened as well.

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Hiking lessons learned:

  1. Everything in life is about balance. Working out / rest days. Eating well / comfort food. Helping others / taking time for yourself. Social time / alone time. Accepting life / changing your future. When the scale tips too much in one direction is when life gets out of balance. You can feel it, and you can adjust accordingly.
  2. Only accept from a future partner the love you put into the relationship. Don’t settle for less than how happy you are being alone. A partner should be an ADDITION to your life, not someone that makes your life less amazing.
  3. Life is short. Grab it by the cahones. Take it. You only get this one precious chance.
  4. Your past isn’t you. YOU are you. Your past just makes you who you are today, in this moment.
  5. Accept others / love yourself. Love others / accept yourself. But love yourself first. The rest of the things you’re looking for in life will follow.
  6. You can love without expectations. Love others because you are a loving person. Don’t expect others to give you the care and generosity that you would give to them. You only get hurt when you expect. Just be careful about being taken advantage of. You’re a person with needs too.
  7. You are not crazy for talking to relatives that are passed. If you think they can hear you, they can. Who is anyone else to say otherwise.

SO it may sound crazy but when I was done with my 5 mile solo hike I was a little different of a person. I forced my overactive anxiety ridden brain to shut off for a few hours, no one could get a hold of me, and I had to think about what I needed instead of what other people needed for once. So get out there! Unplug and unwind, reconnect with nature, ask yourself, what do I love / need? What makes me happy? And then go after it!

 

Ideal Shape up 12 Week Challenge

I posted in the past about the 15 day challenge that my friend and I did, and completed, a program by Trainer Lindsay Matthews from the IdealShape site. Best of all, it’s FREE. The meal plan, the workouts are all on YouTube, and there are Facebook groups you can join for support as well. It’s my kind of workout plan! The workouts are 6 days a week, but only 30 minutes a day, complete with a warmup and a cool down video. I was skeptical about the challenge because I’ve never stuck to a workout plan in my LIFE and never seen results when I did. But little did I know, I have really only stuck to plans that have lasted 3 or 4 weeks and then given up… But I have to say, this was different. It took a few weeks for me to see results, and a few more for everyone else. It took about 5 months for me to have to go buy new clothes, and see a real difference. I tell myself, it took me 33 years to put this weight on, it will take me more than a few weeks to take it off!

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October 2015 / May 2016. 167 lbs vs 150 lbs.

And again, after photos in August 2016 after losing almost 30 pounds! (After weight being 140 pounds)

By no means was I overweight, but I was wearing a “plus size” in pants, and the Wii fit told me I was overweight for my height… And that was discouraging. But my best friend was doing this challenge at the same time I was so we kept each other on track, and I’m SO happy I did. I’ll be starting the program over when it’s done, and just picking up heavier weights to keep improving and getting stronger.

I also gained some important habits in the last 16 weeks too like my eating habits, (I can’t really eat fried foods or too much dairy or sweets anymore.) I eat way more fruits, veggies, and lean meats. I also drink WAY more water than I used to. I get up earlier in the morning and feel like I spend less money on food since I just buy almond milk and protein powder now for breakfast instead of cereal, eggs, oatmeal, and a ton of other random stuff. If anything the 12 week challenge was a gateway into a healthier lifestyle because I started to see and feel results, it’s something that helped me build my confidence and made me a better person overall.

Bottom line, I recommend it!

 

Age Really is Just a Number

So now that I’m in my 30’s I get down now and again about feeling “old”. But something I have realized recently is that AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. It’s technically the number of years you’ve been on this planet, and that’s all! It’s how long you’ve been on Earth while it’s rotating around the sun.

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If you treat your body poorly, you’ll die sooner, and your body is “older”, with a sooner expiration date than someone that’s healthy. If you treat your body right, and eat well, sleep enough, don’t smoke, get exercise, then your body is younger, extending the expiration date. You keep your body in better shape overall, and you’ll live longer, and your body is technically “younger” than someone actually younger than you in years that treats their body worse than you do.

What a brilliant concept to think that I’ve been on this earth 33 years and my body feels the same / better than it does when I was 25. That means I’m fixing to be around longer, and all of the work I do for my longevity, keeps me running smooth, like taking care of a classic car. A classic car from the 50’s can run longer than a car from the 80’s if it’s taken care of better. So I’m going to stop worrying about my “age” and how “old” I am compared to those around me, because you’re only as old as you feel. Ah, age is really just a number, after all!

Makeup Faves

Simple Living to me also means simple routines. Simple routines that cost little money, also save time. I have a very simple face routine, and I know I’ve posted about it before. I shared what I like to use as face wash and moisturizer. As I get older, I like to use a simple Aveno lotion for my face, since the anti-aging ones tend to make my face a little oily.

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Here’s a no-makeup shot and a full on makeup shot. As much as I love to play with makeup and get all “dolled up” I sure love taking it all off and having a fresh face. As for wearing makeup, Here are a few of my favorites:

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The Naked2 Pallet from Urban Decay is all I need to color, shade, and fill eyebrows. I LOVE the brush that comes with it too! Find it at Ulta.com. It was a present, otherwise it’s a little more expensive than I would usually get for myself. But seeing as how awesome it is, I would get it again.

Revlon ColorBurst Lip Butter in Pink Truffle is my absolute favorite! It’s only $9 in drugstores too, which is a great price! It replaces chap stick, lip stick, and lip gloss in my purse. I, of course, still keep a plain chap stick in my bag for the boyfriend, but the Lip Butter is amazing. It keeps my face looking fresh and awake, even if I’m wearing little other makeup. It also adds just the right amount of color, and since I’m super pale, I tend to look almost corpse like in the winter, so the tint is amazing.

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The Elf Blush in Mellow Mauve is available for just $3 at Target or Amazon. It goes on light, and you can add more if needed. And you can’t really beat the price.

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I love this mascara to finish things off! It’s only $7 at drugstores and on Amazon. It’s dark and really boosts my fine lashes up. It’s naturally colored, so I feel safe putting it by my eyes.

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This is also a MUST. It’s only $8 on Amazon! It’s the Physician’s Formula 2 in 1 Liner. I’m a fan of the liquid liner, the good old cat eye. This is an eyelash strengthener AND a great precision liquid liner. It’s designed like a marker, so it’s easy to put on.